Why I Can’t Rate My First Year of Marriage

NOTE: I was on vacation last week, so I missed getting to link up to my latest HeartSupport post. Find it below.

This June, my husband and I will celebrate one year of marriage, and we’re happily looking forward to the next 50. I don’t know if we did that first year right or what’s coming for us in the next few years. By no means are we experts, but we did sit down to discuss what went right and what didn’t go as right in our first year. (I’m married to an engineer so it’s pretty normal to have those types of analytical conversations.)

Besides our tendency to have nearly scientific discussions, we realized that our relationship couldn’t be marked by how healthy we calculated or thought it was. It had to be measured by how much our marriage showed God’s goodness. Unfortunately, there’s no yardstick for that. Instead, each day we’ve made a commitment to trusting God to show up in our marriage even on the days when my husband burned a frozen pizza or when I bleached his boxers.

We didn’t always get it right. In harder days, a simple argument boiled into angry words. At the end of it all though, our prayer has been that our marriage stand on faith in God. After all, God created the human relationship as a testament to his goodness. He wants us to experience things like honesty and love and friendship. Here are a couple of other components my husband and I have prioritized for us (in no particular order):

Find out those components here.


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